So this last week has been one that I would not choose to repeat anytime soon and yet as difficult as it was we have been challenged, stretched and grown. Kadin has for a while been due to have corrective surgery on his ribcage. So this was the week.
Unfortunately it had to be done at a hospital an hour and a half from our home. After much deliberation we decided to leave the other kids with Neil at my folks house half an hour from the hospital while I boarded with Kadin at the hospital. A family split in 2 for 4 days and a child in ICU after having one of the most painful operations done stretched us to the core. Yet we had to find a way to survive.
Eventually we struck the silver lining by realising our only way to cope was to be thankful. Thankful for this horrid intrusion in our lives? Thankful that Kadin needed a metal bar inserted into his chest? Thankful that we were exhausted beyond imagination and thankful that everyone was being stressed in ways we had not known before?
Needless to say – we had to dig deep – really deep to see why we could possibly be thankful for this to be taking place. We began with thankfulness that Kadin and I could spend so much time together watching movies and just being together. He was thankful for the soccer he was able to watch on TV at the hospital, the awesome food he was given and the sweets visitors brought him. We then began to dig deeper and I realised that I was thankful that Kadin had this opportunity to grow his character. To learn about bravery in a non traumatic way and to really know what pain was so that he could grow his compassion for others in pain. I was also thankful that the other children had an amazing time with their grandparents that they will always remember, we managed to squeeze in a family trip to the sharks board and I too learned so much about patience and servanthood this week.
I realised that too often we focus on our difficulties and not on how they can actually bring such growth and give us new and different experiences that we would have otherwise missed. So in this crazy week I learned that if we take time to still ourselves long enough, choose to dig deep enough and open our eyes we can in fact find joy in all circumstances.